Sexuality and gender identity

I tried to do NaBloPoMo once many years ago (back when I used LiveJournal), and gave up half-way through. I’m really hoping to make it through the whole month this time. Running out of time today, though, because I just spent an hour writing a post about sexuality and gender identity for another forum. But […]

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Resilience and sleep

Resilience is an important part of sex offender recovery, I believe. Good resilience makes it easier to stay safe, sane and stable. It makes it easier to resist temptation and to focus on healthier activities. Conversely, stress and anxiety can really zap one’s resilience, making it harder to function stay focused. Stress and anxiety can […]

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Abortion

There are two key groups who should support access to abortion: People who recognise that abortion is an important and necessary element of healthcare. Those who oppose abortion. Yes, people who oppose abortion should support access to it. Those with the most extreme views won’t, of course. They can’t bring themselves to say it. It […]

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Victims

In a sense, I’ve had many victims over the years, but for the most part, they were unsuspecting and unaware. Even so, when my psychologist or someone else mentions “the victim”, referring to the girl whose mother reported me to Police, I spare a thought for the other girls I had photographed in the past. […]

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My story: dealing with lawyers

After giving an intro, and talking about getting caught and being arrested, now it’s time to talk about my experience with lawyers. Basically, I didn’t know where to start, but I knew I’d need some advice. By searching online, I came across a firm that specialises in criminal defence. They caught my eye because they […]

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My kids

So, I have kids. They know the basics of what has happened: to explain why I was seeing them less and why they had been interviewed by DHS Child Protection, I told them about my attraction to teenage girls and how I’d been caught taking photos. My kids are still pretty young, though, so I […]

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Loneliness

In general, I don’t think people tend to weigh up the pros and cons of offending before they do it, but if you happen to be looking at reasons not to offend (or reasons to avoid re-offending), I reckon loneliness should be on your list. It’s lonely, being a sex offender. It’s bad enough having […]

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Taking the night off

Time to go see some friends I really only see once a year these days, at their annual wedding anniversary celebration. Last time I saw them was in the months between my arrest and sentencing. I spoke to a couple of friends there about how I had a court case coming up that might possibly […]

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Mandatory reporting laws

In my post about finding a psychologist, I spoke about mandatory reporting obligations and how they really only apply when there is a direct risk to one or more specific individuals. Sounds like that’s just the local context. I’ve been hearing a bit about mandatory reporting in the US, and it seems laws there carry […]

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