Resilience and sleep

Resilience is an important part of sex offender recovery, I believe. Good resilience makes it easier to stay safe, sane and stable. It makes it easier to resist temptation and to focus on healthier activities. Conversely, stress and anxiety can really zap one’s resilience, making it harder to function stay focused. Stress and anxiety can […]

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Victims

In a sense, I’ve had many victims over the years, but for the most part, they were unsuspecting and unaware. Even so, when my psychologist or someone else mentions “the victim”, referring to the girl whose mother reported me to Police, I spare a thought for the other girls I had photographed in the past. […]

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My kids

So, I have kids. They know the basics of what has happened: to explain why I was seeing them less and why they had been interviewed by DHS Child Protection, I told them about my attraction to teenage girls and how I’d been caught taking photos. My kids are still pretty young, though, so I […]

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Loneliness

In general, I don’t think people tend to weigh up the pros and cons of offending before they do it, but if you happen to be looking at reasons not to offend (or reasons to avoid re-offending), I reckon loneliness should be on your list. It’s lonely, being a sex offender. It’s bad enough having […]

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Taking the night off

Time to go see some friends I really only see once a year these days, at their annual wedding anniversary celebration. Last time I saw them was in the months between my arrest and sentencing. I spoke to a couple of friends there about how I had a court case coming up that might possibly […]

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Safe to be out?

Just a short post tonight. Super tired after a busy weekend, including a bike ride today. So nice to get out and do something active, taking advantage of the lovely weather. There’s a reason it’s safe for people to come out about being homosexual or bisexual these days (unless they live some place like Russia […]

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Strategies to avoid offending

Perhaps my most important job right now is to make sure I don’t re-offend. For the most part, it’s actually much easier than I would have thought. It become second nature to take photos of unsuspecting girls I saw in public, and there was an addictive quality to it, so inertia was one of the […]

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Nature vs. nurture

Everyone loves a good nature versus nurture debate, right? So, where do you sit? Is attraction to children something people are born with, or is it due to environmental factors? Personally, I think it’s a bit of both, and either way, it’s irrelevant. One thing I’m sure of is that it’s not a choice. Who […]

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Life insurance

Like a lot of people, I have no interest in life insurance. Stop trying to sell it to me! It seems my superannuation company realises that people aren’t interested, so they’ve come up with a new tactic: just start providing cover, automatically, unless people opt-out. Clever, but disappointing. I’m sure I’ll cancel it shortly, but […]

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